Throughout 55 years of marriage, Dave and Joyce have learned so much, and they have tons of wisdom to share from their journey.
Joyce Meyer shared about married life with Dave and the secret to keeping a happy and successful married life.
Q: You and Dave have a strong and happy marriage. Why do you think it has been so successful?
A: I think it’s successful because we stopped trying to change each other. I feel it is successful because we are both dedicated to accomplishing what we believe God would want us to do.
Dave is always willing to quickly forgive me when I have done something wrong toward him. When I’m late, Dave is quite understanding. Dave cleans up after himself, does the dishes in the evenings, and advises me to take it easy. He tells me he loves me every day. He gives me a hug and complements me on my attire or appearance.
I never preach a message that he doesn’t tell me, “That was a great message.” He is emotionally secure, he is rarely, if ever, grumpy, and he takes good care of himself physically. He takes great care of me. When I’m around Dave, I always feel safe.
Q: Is it possible for our marriage to last if we don’t share the same goals or have the same idea of the future?
A: I believe that God can alter hearts provided the appropriate attitudes are maintained.
To be honest, when I first sensed God calling me into ministry, Dave simply stated, “Well, that’s just not what I want to do.” And I really felt that God put it in my heart: You do what I put in your heart to do, keep a good attitude, and I’ll take care of Dave.”
And it was literally only three weeks and Dave came to me and said, “You know, God has showed me that you do have an anointing on your life to do this, and I just want you to know that whatever you do, I’ll be there to support you.” God has the power to change a person’s heart.
Q: What advice would you give to a couple who has been having difficulties in their marriage?
A: You know, Dave and I went through some really difficult times. I think that in every relationship, it’s easy to give up—it’s easy to say we cannot make this work.
But you can go to God and say, “What do you want me to do to make this situation better?” Sometimes you have to treat someone well for a long time before you begin to reap the benefits of your sowing.
There’s nothing I can do if I do what’s right and it never satisfies the other person, and they opt to do something else instead. But I’m going to do what’s right by the grace and mercy of God and let Him do what only He can do.
Q: What some other tips to having a great marriage?
A: Well, a good marriage happens on purpose.
Every day when I get up, I purpose to have a good marriage. Many times, I have to pray and ask the Lord to give me a creative idea for a way that I can bless Dave.
It’s also important to give and receive forgiveness.
Forgiveness is the core ingredient to every successful relationship.
Love takes no account of the evil done to it. You know, we need to value other people. We need to be committed. Love is committed for the long haul.
True love simply says, “I love you!” No exceptions! It occasionally requires Godly confrontation.
Hasty words spoken without giving any thought to them often cause tremendous trouble.
I feel that we should be cautious not just with our words to others, but also with our thoughts in front of God.
Many times I’ve thought about how I’d handle a situation, only to be told that’s not how God wants me to do it.
And, remember, timing is everything. We need to learn how to wait on God. God works in His own time, not ours, therefore we must learn to wait patiently and with a positive attitude. Everyone has to wait, so we might as well get good at it. God’s timing will be perfect and whatever He does will be 100-percent right.